Friends.... How many of us have them....
The older I get the more I realize that some of my closest friends are not who I once thought they were.
It's natural to grow apart I know, but when I started not liking one of my best friends it was getting kind of awkward. I had been feeling a divide for quite some time due to some issues I felt were not acceptable for someone who's supposed to be my "bestie". I know time and space can help people cool down and get a level head, but I had seriously gotten to the point where I didn't care one way or another if I ever talked to her again.
I didn't want to feel that way, but that's where is was going.
I pride myself on being a good friend. Always supportive and there to slap a Bi@#$ if needed! LOL
We laugh together, we cry together and most importantly we celebrate each other. I didn't feel like that was happening. It was getting extremely one sided, and the only person that seemed to matter was her.
BUT there is always that ONE friend that is not there for the drama! That would be 1/3 of our group and she was determined to have the grill this beef up and eat it!
We were finally about to hash out our differenced this past weekend when she was in town and now things are slowly on it's way back to normal.
I've learned from this experience that I will NEVER keep quite again and let things build up. That doesn't help the relationship, and just later brings things to a head..... Why didn't I think of just talking about it sooner you might ask..... Because I'm busy! LOL No, but really I've been so side tracked with life that I couldn't give any negativity my energy. It's toooooo precious.
It's natural to grow apart I know, but when I started not liking one of my best friends it was getting kind of awkward. I had been feeling a divide for quite some time due to some issues I felt were not acceptable for someone who's supposed to be my "bestie". I know time and space can help people cool down and get a level head, but I had seriously gotten to the point where I didn't care one way or another if I ever talked to her again.
I didn't want to feel that way, but that's where is was going.
I pride myself on being a good friend. Always supportive and there to slap a Bi@#$ if needed! LOL
We laugh together, we cry together and most importantly we celebrate each other. I didn't feel like that was happening. It was getting extremely one sided, and the only person that seemed to matter was her.
BUT there is always that ONE friend that is not there for the drama! That would be 1/3 of our group and she was determined to have the grill this beef up and eat it!
We were finally about to hash out our differenced this past weekend when she was in town and now things are slowly on it's way back to normal.
I've learned from this experience that I will NEVER keep quite again and let things build up. That doesn't help the relationship, and just later brings things to a head..... Why didn't I think of just talking about it sooner you might ask..... Because I'm busy! LOL No, but really I've been so side tracked with life that I couldn't give any negativity my energy. It's toooooo precious.
I think your blog is really relatable especially coming to the end of my college career, one doesn't realize that things truly do change when you're not in arms reach of each of your friends. As lives continue, it is more of an effort to keep those friendships which you might not see when all being on one small campus. Communication and honesty is really the keys of friendships and making them last! Glad things worked out in your favor and things are going back to normal :)
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